If you're looking for a general definition of what it means to be bisexual, the Human Rights Campaign defines it as feelings of romantic or sexual attraction to more than one gender (meaning it could be more than two!). So there aren’t exactly rules about what makes a person bisexual-you just sort of know it when you feel it. It doesn’t fit neatly into categories or binaries, but instead, transcends them. The thing that makes bisexuality great is also what makes it kinda tragic: Bisexuality is subversive and hard to pin down, which means it’s sometimes hard to actually see. (It is endearing how we never shut up about being bisexual!) But behind our constant need for affirmation is a a feeling of invisibility, and a fear that if we don’t consistently keep “coming out,” a portion of our identity will be lost to assumptions rooted in heteronormativity.

We’re constantly the targets of bullying from both members and non-members of the LGBTQ+ community. Bisexuals are the punching bags of the gay internet.